8TH DEC 2016
A 7 YR OLD’S ADVICE ON FINDING LOVE
BY J.S. VON DACRE
"YOU LEARN [HOW TO KISS] RIGHT ON THE SPOT WHEN THE GOOSHY FEELINGS GET THE BEST OF YOU." - DOUG, AGE 7
He looked up at me with big, blue eyes after he finished his supper. A broad grin broke onto his face. “May I have pudding now, please?”
I smiled, rising from the polished dark wooden table and cleared our plates. He trailed after me into the kitchen as his little face peeked from behind my hips, watching me slice the raspberry cheesecake I made earlier. He followed me back into the dining room as I set two plates down on our table.
As I watched him spoon mouthfuls of sugary bliss into his mouth, my thoughts wandered to a conversation I had earlier with my friend. We discussed her seemingly eternal dilemma in trying to find love. Spurred by a childish curiosity, I asked him, “What do you think a person should do to find a girlfriend or boyfriend?”
He looked up at me and without hesitation replied, “They need to make friends with them first.” I reached forward and playfully ruffled his hair as he returned to his cake.
In an age where online dating and social media is King, people look for love in many misguided ways. Yet, how many recognise the importance of friendship when it comes to love or being in relationships?
A study by Purdue University concluded that a strong friendship is the key to having a long-lasting relationship. The scientists discovered that people who enjoyed a good friendship in their relationship experienced better commitment, love and sex, while those who were more focused on their own personal needs were less likely to stay together.
"Romantic relationships are, at their core, friendships," researchers stated.
So the next time you go on that date or continue your search for “the one”, ask yourself, “Is this someone I could actually also call a good friend?” If the answer is “no”, perhaps it is something you need to re-evaluate. After all, if it is clear enough to a 7-year-old, shouldn’t it be clear enough to everyone else?